Jackie Parkes MBACP

0121 454 2209

07796 836739

Or email

 

Jackie Parkes Counsellor  B.A., Dip Counselling , Registered and Accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.
Face to Face Counselling Birmingham available in Harborne and Quinton

"There are as many nights as days , and the one is just as long as the other in the years course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word 'happy ' would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness" Carl Jung

Problems I can help you both with:

  • Commitment issues
  • Trust
  • Jealousy
  • Anger
  • Problems communicating with each other
  • issues to do with control
  • Extra marital affairs
  • Betrayal and rejection.
  • Insecurity
  • Feelings related to lack of understanding and care
  • Dependency issues
  • Wanting different things from the relationship
  • Arguments
  • Feelings of distance in the relationship       
  • Strained extended family relationships
  • Your conversations just go round and round in never ending circle
  • Different expectations of what it means to be in a relationship

 

 

Couple Counselling can help you both to:

  • Recognise patterns and modes of communication and relating;
  • Understand  each other;
  • Learn to respect each other and re-establish trust and boundaries;
  • Communicate in an easier and more constructive way;
  • Explore what is keeping you stuck as a couple and discover ways of moving forward;
  • Learn how to respond to each others’ needs
  • Reflect on how the past operates on the present

Couple counselling is for anyone who is having difficulties in their relationship.

I provide a safe and supportive setting for you to discuss the way you feel and behave towards one another and to explore how your difficulties have arisen. The focus is on the relationship between you. I aim to create with you new ways of dealing with these problems.

The starting point for relationship counselling is that both parties want to attend the counselling and want to work on their issues.  The Counselling can be challenging as it will involve being open and honest, this will however be in a supportive environment.

I am happy to work with two people in a romantic relationship or marriage as well as other relationships for example such as family or friendship.

Relationships with others are significant to our sense of happiness; being in a couple is one of the most challenging things we can experience, it can touch our deepest vulnerabilities.  Respect in a relationship, often means having an understanding of what is me and what is not me. I have worked with a lot of couples who have thought that their partner has the same characteristics as them and have not recognised individual differences. Boundaries have become blurred and couples can treat each other as an extension of themselves. Counselling in this situation can be about redrawing the boundaries and understanding what differences in relationships means.  Some people have believed there is one right way of doing things.

Other Couples have developed defensive patterns of relating, often involved in mutual blaming attack and withdrawal.  Constructive communication skills are essential but something we are not always taught.  

Sometimes a problem can go deeper. Our early relationship patterns do provide patterning for many of our later relationships. Since most of us did not have a perfect childhood, we develop coping mechanisms, defence patterns or take insecurities into our current relationships. Counselling can be about understanding these deeper patterns and insecurities and to work out the best way for working with them.

To discuss how counselling may benefit you and your relationship please contact Jackie Parkes on tel: 0121 454 2209 or mob: 07796 836739 or email: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.