Perfectionism and Christmas

There are increased expectations at this time of year that one should create a “perfect” Christmas, to cook a “ perfect “dinner,  to buy the “ perfect”  gift, be part of a “ perfect” family, to be happy. . There are more things to do. This can lead to/ increase feelings of low mood and other troubling emotions when you realise that you cannot meet some of these expectations.  

The more idealised the expectation you have the higher the level of disappointment and failure you can feel. This time of year can lead to increased feelings of isolation for many people, as the ideal family and relationship are highlighted.

What you can do?

You can help by looking at what’s good enough rather than what’s perfect. If you have already got high standards, you could start off by expecting 80% from yourself rather than 100%.  

You can start to look at yourself and others more realistically as a whole human being, with strengths and vulnerabilities. You might also realise that many people struggle at this time of year and that you are not alone.